Quality Quickie

1. Feel sexy 24/7.
It’s easy to summon desire instantly (without having to don a thong or schedule a Brazilian) if you think sexy, confident thoughts every day. “The way you think about yourself is a critical factor for how you will feel about yourself,” says Block. The more compliments you pay yourself (I have baby-soft skin and amazing breasts), the more irresistible you’ll feel when the urge hits, even if you happen to be wearing worn-out sneakers and granny panties.

2. Let the mood strike anywhere.

When you do get a case of gotta-have-it-now, skip the bedroom and stake out new territory: your home office, his weight bench, the backyard. “New and somewhat risky places can provide the best form of foreplay because novel surroundings awaken our senses and bring us into the moment,” says Block.

Not at home? Impromptu sex in a public (but discreet) place — in a store dressing room, in the back of the SUV in a quiet parking lot, in an empty room at a party — will add an element of danger to the encounter, causing you to fix your attention on every touch, sound, taste, smell, and image as your adrenaline revs up. The result: No matter how fast you’re moving, every kiss and touch will feel electrifying.

3. Take matters into your own hands.

If you don’t have time for lots of foreplay (that’s what leisurely Saturday nights are for), take a shortcut to arousal: Pleasure yourself with your hand, or use a vibrator while your partner touches himself and watches you. “Once you’re suitably aroused, you can dive straight into sex far quicker than if you’d given each other foreplay,” says Emily Dubberley, author of Sex for Busy People: The Art of the Quickie for Lovers on the Go.

Sure, your guy turns you on, but let’s face it: No one knows how to push your buttons better than you do.

4. Go for emotional quickies.

Not all quickies are about bodice-ripping lust. “They can be a deliberate way to bond deeply with your partner,” says Patricia Johnson, coauthor of The Essence of Tantric Sexuality.

Try this no-sex version: Lie beside your man, facing him, then place your right hands on each other’s hearts and lock eyes. (No laughing.) “Holding this posture for even a few minutes will bring you into physical harmony and create a powerful, immediate surge of connection and love,” Johnson says.

5. Have great sex-pectations.

If you’re feeling hot and bothered and expect to see your man soon, think about the sexy scenario before it happens. “Visualizing intimacy before engaging in sex will heighten your level of arousal and put you closer to sexual satisfaction,” says Scott Haltzman, M.D., an assistant professor of psychiatry at Brown University and author of The Secrets of Happily Married Men.

Research has shown that imagining yourself in a sexy situation can stimulate some of the same body sensations as actually being in one. So a few hot minutes in bed may be the climax of a two-hour romance in your head, he says.

6. Keep the passion burning all day.
When you’re just not in the mood, even for a quickie, you can still reconnect without actual sex-sex. “A quickie without sex is an excellent way to tune in to your partner in a loving way,” says Tracey Cox, author of Quickies: Sex for Busy People.

Hold hands, brush up behind him and wrap your arms around his waist, let him know how hot you think he looks in his new jeans. Keep the flame between you alive, even when you’re not making a roaring fire. When the opportunity for sex strikes, you’ll both be ready to rock each other’s world.